“Many sexual positions only hit the clitoris intermittently, or miss it altogether,” he says. Toys can be a quick route to climax for her, says Ian Kerner, a licensed marriage and family therapist in New York and author of She Comes First. “I love things like a powerful clitoris stimulator, or a string of beads that can gently find their way into my back door,” says one respondent. Some women secretly want to incorporate more toys in the bedroom, according to our poll. Your move: Kiss her in the kitchen, hold her tight at a party, or tell her exactly what you want to do to her while you’re in the elevator en route to your room. Plus, if you’re in public and can’t immediately do the deed, it builds massive tension for later on. Making a move in an unexpected location shows you’re attracted to her-not that you just want sex, says Goldman. Related: The Risky Sex Trend More Couples Are Trying. “Those are some of the times I’ve been most turned on.” “I love it when my boyfriend gets things started in places outside of the bedroom,” one woman confesses. Start by finding out what turns her on-then pay close attention to her reactions during the deed. “It’s great to take risks and bring back the passion.”ĭon’t spring porn-style domination out of nowhere, though. “ Sex is about the rush, and when you have the same partner for a long time, the giddiness and nervousness fade,” Goldman says. Plus, the anticipation of not knowing what’s going to happen next is hot. “Letting go and not making the decisions can be a turn-on,” she says. Some women fantasize about relinquishing control because they’re in charge all day long, says Arlene Goldman, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist and sex therapist in Philadelphia and author of The Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy. “I’m not talking whips, chains, and 50 Shades, but a little rougher and more domineering.” “I want my husband to be more aggressive!” says one wife. Several of the women we polled privately wish for rougher sex.
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(To get the conversation started, follow this genius advice on How to Talk about Sex with Your Partner.) Keep these requests in mind-you may find it’s what your partner desires, too. To help you both out, we asked 20 women what they secretly crave in bed. And as a result, you may have no idea what the person you’re sleeping with really wants-or doesn’t want-in the sack. In fact, many couples avoid the subject, says Kristen Mark, Ph.D., a sex researcher at the University of Kentucky. Most of us feel more awkward talking about sex than we do actually having it.